Handling Disappointment

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Last Updated: September 8, 20232.5 min read
It’s the sinking feeling in the bottom of your stomach when you don’t see your name on the final roster.It’s the searing pain when you drop to the ground and realize something isn’t right with your body.

It’s the call you don’t want to receive when your job as a coach or leader has been on the line all season. Let down disappoints. What do we do in these moments when there doesn’t seem to be a way forward?

God wants you to know He is right there with you when it doesn’t feel good, and your heart is heavy with unmet hopes and disbanded dreams. God is more interested in the shape of our character than the status of our situation.

As an ongoing and personal relationship with Jesus produces spiritual fruit in our lives, enduring disappointment produces perseverance, which grows our character.Our disappointments can lead us to produce:

Fresh Fruit
Godly characteristics can be produced no matter the circumstance — good or bad. God is intentional about creating a refining faith that shapes us more and more into the image of His Son Jesus. Good, bad and in between, nothing is wasted in our development, and we get to experience more of God’s character in ways we never would have otherwise had we not gone through the trials.

Healthy Fruit
As you grow into these godly characteristics, they don’t only benefit you, but they can help others. Who around you needs a listening ear, a wise word or a heart that points them to Jesus? People will know we know Jesus by the way we care, and as God develops the fruit of the Spirit in our lives, it can’t help but overflow toward others.

Lasting Fruit
This fruit isn’t just for a quick fix. Godly characteristics can be produced consistently and have a long-term impact on those around you. Our end goal is Christlikeness, and this is a steady consistency that holds us steady, plants us deep in God’s Word, and produces wisdom, grace and peace that lasts.Disappointment plays a role in our spiritual development. We see God in deep ways, and He strengthens us so we can become a source of comfort to our peers when they face their own struggles.


“Father God, thank You that You are here with me in the middle of my disappointment. Thank You that my hope is in You, and that You are faithful and true. Help me to shift my way of seeing this struggle as a way to grow closer to You and develop perseverance and character. Guide me through this, for my good and Your glory. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”



Sarah Freymuth
Sarah is the Communications Manager for FCA and writes content for blogs, articles, Bible reading plans and devotionals that share God’s heart with coaches and athletes.

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